Today’s Quickie: The “Pre-Plow Blow Job”


As a woman who writes m/m, I have found that while yes I can write an erotic love scene between two (or more) men, there are certain things that I just don’t have practical experience with in the male sex department. I do not, for example, possess a prostate or a penis and so there are a lot of experiences that I understand only in theory – sexy theory though it may be.

Something I’ve seen more times than I can shake my proverbial stick at, are sex scenes where the bottom gets a blow job or hand job immediately prior to getting his ass pounded like there’s no tomorrow. And this is NOT exclusive to women who write m/m, though it does seem to be more common. Yet I’ve had male friends insist to me that the last thing a guy wants after getting off is to have something shoved up his ass. So I started to wonder – what gives??

One of my favorite buddies, Damon Suede, was recently patient enough to lay it all out for me. Not just an honest answer (which apparently is no, except for certain rare exceptions, guys really don’t like to get fucked right after they’ve gotten off) but I also got an in-depth explanation of the physiology behind the WHY part of it unlike I’ve seen in any gay sex instruction manual. This in turn prompted his guest blog today over at Reviews by Jessewave entitled “Numb Shots.” It’s a fascinating read, and I encourage you to check it out, here.

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